tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7021364414249897766.post3947038829759487369..comments2023-10-18T09:12:17.911-07:00Comments on Rick R. Reed Reality: Love at First Sight & Other MusingsRick R. Reedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06200655067546158333noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7021364414249897766.post-91341112149107216222012-07-21T08:46:43.278-07:002012-07-21T08:46:43.278-07:00I like it too, Kage.I like it too, Kage.Rick R. Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06200655067546158333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7021364414249897766.post-23394130874753434082012-07-21T06:31:11.232-07:002012-07-21T06:31:11.232-07:00I'll go out on a limb here and see if I can re...I'll go out on a limb here and see if I can reason this out in a way that makes sense. I believe that there are people we are meant to meet. Some of them will become good friends and, if things go well, one will be that soul mate we hope is there for us (if you believe that sort of thing...and many don't). If and when that happens and we meet the person of our dreams, it's not by accident, not really. If we're meant to be together, then that attraction between the two souls was in place before we were even born. So, can we have love at first sight if there was foresight into us meeting? Sure.<br /><br />That's just one theory, but one I like.Kristoffer Gairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00862202554700556478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7021364414249897766.post-10430119395199007432012-07-21T02:10:33.492-07:002012-07-21T02:10:33.492-07:00There was one man, and the instant i saw him, I ha...There was one man, and the instant i saw him, I had this "ah ha" moment. A running commentary where the words "you really do exist" kept repeating itself in my head. It was like i knew him, even though i had never met or seen him before. I swear my body, heart and soul knew this man but the rest of me needed an introduction.<br />He only lived for 6 years after that day, but he changed, and in some ways, even saved my life. I firmly believe we knew each, on some other plane or lifetime or what have you, and he came into my life at the time when i needed him most. I miss him every day.Susan65https://www.blogger.com/profile/10671740753154821686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7021364414249897766.post-33691563597197541692012-07-20T13:43:06.689-07:002012-07-20T13:43:06.689-07:00I love hearing from people like you. The same thin...I love hearing from people like you. The same thing happened to me. It wasn't until I said, "You know what? I want to be single; I'm happier that way. I am so NOT looking for a relationship." One month after that, I met the man whom I know I'll spend the rest of my life with.Rick R. Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06200655067546158333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7021364414249897766.post-17279662192145862842012-07-20T13:41:13.856-07:002012-07-20T13:41:13.856-07:00I know just what you mean, Lynn, especially the pa...I know just what you mean, Lynn, especially the part about very true friends that distance, time, whatever kept you apart and you're able to pick right up where you left off when you do see each other again. There are a few people like that in my own life.Rick R. Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06200655067546158333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7021364414249897766.post-13020807219276745802012-07-20T13:39:47.221-07:002012-07-20T13:39:47.221-07:00Thanks so much, Tracy, for the thoughtful comment!...Thanks so much, Tracy, for the thoughtful comment!Rick R. Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06200655067546158333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7021364414249897766.post-22462350628972126722012-07-20T13:39:23.104-07:002012-07-20T13:39:23.104-07:00I knew you'd agree, ZAM! And you are one of th...I knew you'd agree, ZAM! And you are one of those people I knew, as soon as I met you, that there was a connection.Rick R. Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06200655067546158333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7021364414249897766.post-23878989102595618442012-07-20T13:33:58.378-07:002012-07-20T13:33:58.378-07:00You know... love at first sight happens a lot. And...You know... love at first sight happens a lot. And not just romantic love, like you said. You just KNOW when you're going to click with someone be it a friend or partner. You surround yourself with like minded people, people who are your opposites to balance yourself out and lots of other reasons. But the romantic love at first sight? Oh hell yeah! I had it hit me with my husband. I had been married twice before, both relationships abusive. It wasn't until I decided, "Screw this, I'm done" that I met my current husband. I heard him laugh. Laugh, for pity's sake and something inside me just ... clicked. We've been together for ten years and still act like freakin' newlyweds. So to whoever wrote that review... meh. Forget it. Their loss and someday, maybe they'll experience what you are talking about and then go... "OOOhhhhhh okay!" :DMel Chesleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08200734886454147170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7021364414249897766.post-41831033333755858652012-07-20T11:11:42.865-07:002012-07-20T11:11:42.865-07:00In my experience, I've been in love, deeply, m...In my experience, I've been in love, deeply, many times, and each of then was "at first sight" and they were, thankfully, mutual. We just clicked. They might not have lasted, but the last one, my husband, clicked and did last. I remember the first time I noticed him and we talked. He captivated me. We didn't see each other for almost a month, and when we did, we just fell into it.<br /><br />I believe in love at first sight, and I write about it. <br /><br />I can't understand how someone can just negate the feeling - either with a love situation, or just meeting a person for the first time and then sit and talk and the time passes and it's like you've known each other for ages, like that person is a part of you that was missing from your life.<br />And there are friends I have, who, after months, years, decades, of not seeing each other, fall right into the groove, right back into the conversation as if one of us has just come back from the bathroom at the bar, or it's the very next day and nothing about how we feel for each other has changed.<br /><br />But, I find it sad that some people have never experienced that zing, that spark of connection, that "insta lust", craving, that can happen. Magic doesn't happen often, but when it does, wow. You never forget it.Lynn Lorenzhttp://www.lynnlorenz.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7021364414249897766.post-19691936452467468232012-07-20T09:59:19.561-07:002012-07-20T09:59:19.561-07:00I fell in love with my husband at first sight. Wel...I fell in love with my husband at first sight. Well, it wasn't sight exactly, it was a crowded, dark movie theater. I loved how he talked (through a double feature of Rocky Horror and Shock Treatment, fortunately, where audience members can talk without upsetting anyone.)<br /><br />I loved how his mind worked, right there and then. I loved how gentle he talked and how quick witted. I loved his kindness. I loved his intelligence. By the time the movies were over and we adjourned to a bar nearby, I was crazy about him. By the time we parted, I believe I felt the same way about him I do today, nearly thirty years later. I believe we connect with people and maybe it's kismet, maybe it's a shared history in another lifetime, the preexistence, the astral plane, or maybe it's basic chemistry, and we combust, but whatever. I believe in love at first sight, sound, whatever. It shows up in my work all the time too...<br /><br />Different strokes, as they say.Z.A. Maxfieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02573777376812317486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7021364414249897766.post-19972827832620046632012-07-20T08:19:28.618-07:002012-07-20T08:19:28.618-07:00I see love -- or friendship -- at first sight wave...I see love -- or friendship -- at first sight waved off as unrealistic all the time (even in, gawdhelpus, romance reviews, where it's pretty much a staple) and it always irks me. I'm normally a shy, reticent person IRL, but my deepest and most long-lasting friendships are those where something within myself forced me to make the first move with someone because it just felt RIGHT that they be in my life somehow. I'm even including my husband; on paper we shouldn't work at ALL (and sometimes it's hard) but we've got 13 years under our belt now, complete with 3 kids, various pets, and a military career that has involved 2 cross-country moves and 3 overseas deployments.<br /><br />That said, sometimes those types of stories don't work for me. The ones that don't work are the ones where no tensions come from within the relationship itself. There's no clash of personalities, neither person is fighting it or wondering if this is all moving a little fast, there're no misunderstandings or false steps of any kind. No relationship is without its stresses and pitfalls, and stories where ALL the conflict comes from outside the couple just seem, to me, to skate over the more interesting possibilities -- the ones that will most surely lead to personal growth.<br /><br />As I recall, Caregiver was one I...I hesitate to say "one I really enjoyed" because that seems to undercut the more serious parts of the story. But it definitely didn't bore me or irritate me!tracykitnreadshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05179481691225822227noreply@blogger.com